{"id":2241,"date":"2010-03-20T16:34:10","date_gmt":"2010-03-20T22:34:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/seanthorenson.wordpress.com\/?p=2241"},"modified":"2015-01-01T08:20:16","modified_gmt":"2015-01-01T13:20:16","slug":"the-talk","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.thorenson.com\/inklings\/the-talk\/","title":{"rendered":"The Talk"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-2242\" title=\"Talk\" src=\"https:\/\/www.thorenson.com\/inklings\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/talk.jpg?w=450\" alt=\"\" width=\"450\" height=\"450\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>I knew the day was coming, but the school curriculum pretty much sealed the date.<\/strong> My oldest son&#8217;s class will soon be covering HIV in science and with it will come some talk about &#8216;changes&#8217; they are all going through. Rather than have a bunch of squirrelly school boys educating each other, I thought I&#8217;d step in.<\/p>\n<p>After having a nice lunch I thought I&#8217;d take him for a drive where we could discuss the topic with some privacy. After pulling into a parking lot and turning off the vehicle, I knew he was suspicious about why I wasn&#8217;t getting out. Nothing can prepare you for the awkwardness that this moment brings and once I started there was no turning back. I was going to have &#8216;the talk&#8217; whether either of us were ready for it.<\/p>\n<p>I must have gotten a little too graphic because at one point he complained of having a stomach ache and actually got out of the van to sit down in the parking lot. I thought he was going to refund his lunch. After the initial queasiness wore off I found out a little about what he knew and let him know where the boundaries were. We even shared some stories that we could both laugh about. Ultimately I wanted him to know that if he ever had questions about anything, that he could come talk to me.<\/p>\n<p>Afterward he looked at me and said, &#8220;Dad, I feel more mature right now.&#8221; I told him how proud we were of the young man he was becoming but that he was still a boy and not to get carried away with his &#8216;maturity&#8217;. He&#8217;s a smart kid and I know he&#8217;ll learn more than what I&#8217;ve told him today, but being there to teach him the secret handshake of manhood was quite the experience. The talk with son number two will be in another three years. I should be ready.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I knew the day was coming, but the school curriculum pretty much sealed the date. My oldest son&#8217;s class will soon be covering HIV in science and with it will come some talk about &#8216;changes&#8217; they are all going through. Rather than have a bunch of squirrelly school boys educating each other, I thought I&#8217;d [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"spay_email":"","footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_is_tweetstorm":false},"categories":[3,20,21,167,149,155],"tags":[330,329,317,331],"class_list":["post-2241","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-advice","category-kids","category-life-lessons","category-parenting","category-relationships","category-teaching","tag-bees","tag-birds","tag-maturity","tag-the-talk"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p3XRuE-A9","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thorenson.com\/inklings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2241","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thorenson.com\/inklings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thorenson.com\/inklings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thorenson.com\/inklings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thorenson.com\/inklings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2241"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.thorenson.com\/inklings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2241\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7984,"href":"https:\/\/www.thorenson.com\/inklings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2241\/revisions\/7984"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thorenson.com\/inklings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2241"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thorenson.com\/inklings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2241"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thorenson.com\/inklings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2241"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}